tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post4394705888984491369..comments2023-05-12T10:57:18.856-04:00Comments on All Aboard the Pity Boat: Odd Feelingsjillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06645802594940433840noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-26533666412056761462010-08-02T18:23:10.600-04:002010-08-02T18:23:10.600-04:00FWIW, for someone in your situation who does not t...FWIW, for someone in your situation who does not talk to others regularly about her feelings (except her husband), I think counseling is even more important. And there is nothing shameful about asking for help when you need it, in my book.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-19588654266234623882010-08-02T13:03:07.649-04:002010-08-02T13:03:07.649-04:00I totally understand feeling like you're a sma...I totally understand feeling like you're a smart person and should just be able to figure this all out by yourself. I have felt that way before too. <br /><br />But, I think it's really a good idea to continue getting help and talking to someone. This journey sucks and hopefully it will end soon...but it might not and it might get a lot harder. Talking to someone will make a difference in the long run. You will be able to handle more later if you need to. You will be healthier and able to make better decisions. <br /><br />Just going in the 1st place was a great thing and you should be proud of yourself for taking that step.Three Cats and a Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757969648902689785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-52425043395385550162010-08-01T09:38:17.167-04:002010-08-01T09:38:17.167-04:00Hi Jill! Just stumbled upon your blog and wanted t...Hi Jill! Just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to extend a message to let you know that you are not alone. There are MANY people who deal with the same kind of feelings and frustrations that you do. Going to a therapist for now is a way to handle the situation, and you can try it for a few more sessions, and if you are still not comfortable then don't go. Find other things that can make you feel happy and connected with your life and your situation. Have you considered other ways to become parents? Best of luck with your journey :)Frozen Egg Bank Experthttp://www.myeggbank.com/frozen-egg-advantage.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-50700032934395865962010-08-01T07:33:03.139-04:002010-08-01T07:33:03.139-04:00I have done counselling a few times and understand...I have done counselling a few times and understand the hesitancy of being emotional in there - I definitely was too. I do have people that I confide in that has really helped me but everyone is different. As a recovering alcholic, I really see that asking for help is the bravest, most courageous thing that you can do - I admire anyone who can take this step - good on you!!Journey Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13431048965054379161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-7961249796876009832010-07-31T11:58:44.207-04:002010-07-31T11:58:44.207-04:00I want to give you my support. i don't particu...I want to give you my support. i don't particularly like when therapists suggest medications straight away. So I understand. Give yourself some time though, you may feel different about the whole thing in a couple of days. Love, FranFranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05717020378275616297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-37055397039005080142010-07-31T10:32:36.650-04:002010-07-31T10:32:36.650-04:00Just in case it might help-I'm very much the s...Just in case it might help-I'm very much the same in that I don't have any friend close enough that I can tell my most intimate thoughts/feelings to. And I never wanted to be a person who needed help from an outside source-I thought I could handle things myself. My first attempt at therapy ended up with my crying the whole first session. Then the following sessions I never really got into any depth what was going on with me. I could never get comfortable with the actual talking about myself. I lasted just a few sessions with that therapist. Then more than 2 years later I realized I needed to really delve deeper to get help and feel better, so I started with a new therapist and did 2 years individual therapy (with medication added) and then 1 year group therapy. Helped tremendously.Ayshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08928644902742694512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-14732070009021739992010-07-30T15:49:11.644-04:002010-07-30T15:49:11.644-04:00I get it... Sometimes there is so much hurt that y...I get it... Sometimes there is so much hurt that you have to build a wall. You dont want it all to go spilling over to everyone else, so you don't say anything. I've been there and often there are still things that I can't tell most people, or even anyone at all. So I lock it up inside. It feels like if I could talk to someone that I know wouldn't judge me and was far enough away from the inner cyrcle of my people it might be better. I'm not sure I could talk like that to a stranger, just because I don't know what they would be thinking. <br /><br />I geuss my point is stick with it, at least for awhile, and don't ever feel alone. If you need anyone to talk to I'm an IM or phone call away.jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06889981239632091750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-74730496853103337792010-07-30T15:47:57.931-04:002010-07-30T15:47:57.931-04:00i just want to send ((hugs)) i think you are so br...i just want to send ((hugs)) i think you are so brave for going to therapy. so many people (myself included) have said "gee, i should go" & then chicken out. i hope it becomes a source of help for you, & in the meantime, there's always your devoted blog audience here to listen. :)katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610970477653618206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-91439695840861225232010-07-29T23:35:36.042-04:002010-07-29T23:35:36.042-04:00Oh darling! I think its human nature and totally ...Oh darling! I think its human nature and totally natural to want to "fix" ourselves. It goes against everything inside us to admit that we are broken. And worse yet - something internal like depression that can't be seen and has sooo many different manifestations. <br />I say take a deep breathe. Look at it as working on the inside like your running was working on the outside. Everyone needs some "spring cleaning". I talked to my cousin about Kell's traumatic start to life and could not believe the weight it took off of me! I wish I would have done it sooner. <br />I also like to have an outside perspective on feelings I have. I WANT someone to tell me if I'm being completely crazy!! <br />Sometimes a therapist isn't a good match. Give it a minimum of three sessions. You may need to find someone with a different personality or style. <br />Depression is a very real thing. And it is terrifying to think you might be dealing with it. The meds freak me out too!! I didn't take any after my divorce and I wish I would have. In fact, I'm on the verge of taking them right now. It's a chemical imbalance. It isn't anything you did wrong. <br />Hang in there. Keep venting! Please let me know if you need to talk :) you still have my email address, right? I can give you my phone number too :)<br />Big hugs!!!<br /><br />wow... that was long. I hope it made sense!Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12253396009154550312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-15109516403601080872010-07-29T22:28:35.660-04:002010-07-29T22:28:35.660-04:00I'm the same way with my emotions and feelings...I'm the same way with my emotions and feelings. I don't like to show/share them much. I try to keep a happy face on for everyone. Maybe talking to the therapist will help you feel comfortable being more open with people. Let me know...maybe I should give it a try!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14738578416197596597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-85662311120976100702010-07-29T21:13:11.987-04:002010-07-29T21:13:11.987-04:00Hubby and I finally got into a therapist today. We...Hubby and I finally got into a therapist today. We each got our own. Hubby was very unhappy with how it all went, and I was ready to invite mine to Thanksgiving dinner.<br />Starting therapy, when you don't share normally is an odd feeling. It goes against almost everything we learn about functioning in poilte society. (Religion, politics, money, self...)<br />There are also a ton of therapists out there, and just like people you meet everyday, you aren't going to jive with each one. You have some real reasons to be depressed, things aren't how you planned them...give yourself a break about how you're coping with that. <br />Love you! (Maybe I should fly out and we can take a WEEK to catch up.)Heather Griffith Brewerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07640170791000157111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-56758086914627037662010-07-29T21:09:06.087-04:002010-07-29T21:09:06.087-04:00If this was only your first time, I can see how it...If this was only your first time, I can see how it might feel odd or not quite right. But it can help, so I hope you give it a few times to see if it starts to feel better.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10030801926318157162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-27283846460646790802010-07-29T20:58:15.814-04:002010-07-29T20:58:15.814-04:00(((hugs)))
I know it seems odd to talk to other w...(((hugs)))<br /><br />I know it seems odd to talk to other weird and strange people, but counselling helped me through a tough time many many years ago. I say give it a couple more tries before you hang it up.My Vegashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232402432779260397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-36493246218102163162010-07-29T20:48:41.021-04:002010-07-29T20:48:41.021-04:00I think you're doing so much better than you t...I think you're doing so much better than you think, Jill - it's hard, changing the way you've thought for your entire life. That includes allowing yourself out to someone else. You're incredibly brave to try.Mother Knows Best Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07127811116486063201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-22398854258183404582010-07-29T18:05:11.346-04:002010-07-29T18:05:11.346-04:00Yes, going to a therapist show just how much coura...Yes, going to a therapist show just how much courage you have and how strong you are. There's a great chance the counseling wil work!<br />I wish I had so much courage...Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16964103662381442200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-23547695551103547522010-07-29T15:41:16.601-04:002010-07-29T15:41:16.601-04:00I think a lot of people hold things in, and don...I think a lot of people hold things in, and don't know how to let it out to people like therapists. Please know that these feelings are normal. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I think that this world would be a much better place if we all went to therapy to talk about our feelings. <br /><br />I'm so proud of you for going to a therapist and talking about yourself. It shows that you are a strong person who is taking control! Sending a big hug to you!!!Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-38901613084061637602010-07-29T14:47:12.148-04:002010-07-29T14:47:12.148-04:00It sounds very healthy to me. Even the part of you...It sounds very healthy to me. Even the part of you that feels guilty for talking about your feelings with someone. <br /><br />I think it takes a lot of courage and strength to look your feeling in the eye and confront them. And personally I think counseling can work miracles :)<br /><br />Big hugs to you for being brave!Circus Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201859855761532276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6736461713743727699.post-80590210434609356732010-07-29T14:44:39.214-04:002010-07-29T14:44:39.214-04:00I swear we are living parallel lives!
There are ...I swear we are living parallel lives! <br /><br />There are more people than ever going to counsler/therapist they just don't talk about it. I found talking to someone other than my hubby helped me ALOT! Don't be embarrassed at all, cry if you need to, you have pent up feelings that need to come out. <br /><br />((((HUGS)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com